“We fear success because it may invite a bigger opportunity for failure.”
Lara Casey – Make it Happen
the accomplishment of an aim or purpose
This is a letter to the woman who lacks confidence. I am her. I remember thinking, “ahhhhhhhh, the life of an entrepreneur! Should be easy, freeing and controllable”. Wow! Did I have such a false reality! Actually the life of an entrepreneur can be quite lonely. As you grow a business and discover WHO YOU ARE through that there will be doubters and haters. In a world saturated with photographers and bloggers and creatives it can be real easy to look at each other as competition and not as a fellow passion follower, business lover and yoga pant email repliers! So back to those words “failure” and “success”. Let’s chat about these for a hot second. As I sit in my workout pants, you can’t even see the bottom of my desk and the coffee pot is almost on empty, I want to talk about how the way you view these things can truly affect your confidence level.
I know for myself when I place my focus on my failures and skew the definition of success I am only inviting negativity into my life. You see, the world thinks success is when “you’ve made it”. But what does that mean? If we don’t blueprint out OUR definition of success, then you will constantly be chasing nothing. Look at the definition of success, “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose”. When I chase the world and put my aim and purpose on money and things and status, I find no joy in it. But when I sit back and focus my aim and purpose on people and lives, I feel refreshed, renewed and ready (if you don’t know me you’ll find out I have a secret love for “r” words…it’s weird I know!).
“How much you make will never matter as much as the difference you make”.
…..but often times there is something holding you back from your success (whatever you define that to be)….fear.
“Fear can hold us back from making what truly matters happen” ~Lara Casey- Make it Happen
We all have them. We all are in some way being held back because of them. One thing I’ve learned is that you can fear, failure or you can view failure as fertilizer! Here are your two choices: 1. Let our egos run the show or 2. surrender our fears and be humbled! Meet your fears. Write them down, get to know them and learn how to overcome them!
Accomplishing goals for the fear of being called selfish
Accomplishing goals for the fear of chasing empty and to realize I’m cheering alone
Putting myself out there for the fear of feeling unloved, rejected, unwanted, alone
Putting myself out there for the fear of being called amateur, a hobbyist
Making friends in the business for the fear of getting taken advantage of, knocked down
Growing a business for the fear of people thinking I am chasing money and status
Finding out who I a really am and losing ones I love
If these fears don’t strip every bit of my confidence away I don’t know what will! Talk about wanting to crawl into a dark hole, not see the sun and drink my troubles away!
But here is reality. Those fears are not real because they haven’t happened. What is real is what is now and what has happened! All of those things up there are just thoughts of what others may think if I do something I want to accomplish!
“OUR PURPOSE CANNOT DEPEND ON SOMEONE ELSES YES!”
So, you, with no confidence. Write out your fears, get to know them and overcome them. Then write your dreams!
I want to be a full time wedding and family photographer
I would love to be a destination wedding photographer
I have a passion for teaching and hope to someday be considered a teacher in this business
Having a beautiful office space to call “mine” (in the works!!!)
Offering prints to my brides
Travel for photoshoots, workshops, weddings, personal
Meeting some of my dream photographers: Jasmine Star, Wildflowers Photography, Julie Paisley, Sarah-Beth Photography and My four hens Photography
Being a faithful contributor to my family’s finances
Photograph in the dessert
Photograph a Mountain Elopement
Be a part of a “team” of wedding vendors
When your fears start to creep in again, look at your list of dreams and remember
“you are MORE than what you do, MORE than your work and MORE than your failures”
All photos credited to Miranda Parker of Miranda and Trish